Marriage is hard enough, but moving in together gives you a whole new set of things to disagree on. That lemon-lime lava lamp that’s followed you into all of your bedrooms since the second grade might become a source of tension if your new roommate isn’t into that sort of thing. Thankfully, there are ways to appeal to both sides of the masculine/feminine decor spectrum. Here’s what we got:

Stick with a neutral color scheme.

Neutrals are trendy right now, and they’re the perfect color scheme for co-ed roomies. If you do decide to go this route, you have the option of grey scale or brown scale neutrals.

Use natural elements.

Wood, brick, greenery and wool are three examples of beautiful, natural elements that you can incorporate into your joint living space. Adding a plant or a wooden side table gives your space a natural feel that appeals to both sexes.

Split space.

Especially if your home lacks extra square footage, getting in the habit of splitting space can be a lifesaver. This also gives you the chance to use all of the obviously feminine or masculine pieces that you love.

Buy unisex accent pieces.

It doesn’t get more neutral than a bookshelf…or a mirror. Or a clock. Using accent pieces that don’t strictly cater to a masculine or feminine style of home decor  is a great way to level the playing field.

And if all else fails, compromise.

Like anything in marriage, you’re going to have to get in the habit of giving a little to get a little. Maybe you can live with your partner’s lava lamp if they let you hold on to your Star Wars posters. What’s right for you and your partner might not work for another couple, so be sure to talk through your decor before you get started. It might not be easy, but decorating a space for him and her is definitely possible. Share your favorite unisex spaces with us on Pinterest.

How to Decorate a Space for Him and Her