“Marriage is supposed to be this huge great overwhelming passion, and that we’re supposed to be looking for our soul mate, our other half, but it’s actually pretty damn mundane. After all the excitement goes, what you really want to be left with is someone who is a really good person and who adores you, and who you can grow old with.”
― Jane Green, To Have and to Hold
Living consistently with my husband has taught me to enjoy spending occasional down time near him, rather than with him. Before John and I were married, I dreamt of evenings spent lounging on a plush couch, glass of wine and book in hand, while my husband sipped scotch and mused on Nietzsche.
Dreams and reality being what they are, John and I are more likely to be found playing Call of Duty (him) and drinking Dr. Pepper (me), yes, still with book in hand.
We sit more than we lounge, and we chat more than we muse. We have our moments of class and enlightenment, but we will never be mistaken for Jackie and JFK. Our routine of normality suits us, filling in the gaps of time that suddenly appear when a couple says “I Do”.
Oh yes, regarding the ever present book in hand.
Jane Green writes about authentic relationships, with enough romance to inspire, wit to amuse, and reality to impact. Whether you are looking for a clever ride through the relationship foibles of a single city gal – we can live vicariously, right? – or a winding path of difficult choices and enduring family love, Jane Green will lead you through. I started reading her books at age 14, sneakily at my cousin’s house, pretending that they were appropriate for my age. However, with the complexity of adulthood has come a greater appreciation for the honesty with which Jane writes about all aspects of life.